Interpersonal Relationship (Part 5) 12 Tips to Develop and Maintain it.

Dear friends, we have seen in earlier articles about the basics, stages, types, importance and advantages of interpersonal relationship.  If you have not yet read those articles I kindly request you to read them. 

In this article, we shall see 12 tips to develop and maintain interpersonal relationships.  These tips are so much helpful when it comes to connecting with people. If you can practise these tips with the people around you, your professional, as well as private life will be improving a lot.

Let’s see the tips one by one.

1) Appreciate: Always try to find the good in others and if you find that one or two good things, appreciate it. Be curious and use some kind words and praise people. Learn to say a nice thank you whenever someone does something for you. Welcome them nicely when people visit you. If you make others feel good then they will show goodness towards you too.

2) Be a good listener: This is one skill which will be helpful for the rest of your life. Try to be a good listener because everyone needs someone they can vent to or just share when they have something to say. Try to make them feel comfortable by actively listening to them. Your friends and colleagues will appreciate this fact that you listen to them. It will help you in the long run.

3) Communicate effectively: See how you say things and make sure that the other person gets a clear idea to what you're saying. This will help get rid of misunderstandings.

4) Be funny: It is often said that if you can help someone with a smile, you have a moral obligation to do it. So, make them smile, they will love to be with you. Use your sense of humour as an effective way to do it.

5) Don't Complain: Don't be someone who complains all the time, you will be nothing but a fool and for some people 'sympathy gainer'. Even if you want to do it, just do it in front of your close friends and family, but still keep it short.

 

6) Observe the people whom you know relate well with people and know what you really like about them.  Is it the body language?   The pacing of their talk?  Do they ask how you are doing?  Do they pay attention to you? Etc.

7) Practice it.  I work as a teacher, so I meet a number of students and their parents. I practice number 1 with them. When it feels awkward, I take note and try again.  It is said practising makes a man perfect.

8) Be genuinely concerned and interested in the other person.  It removes the nerves you feel.

9) I have a "script" Before I talk, or call a person, I write what I want to say and I structure them. I have an arsenal of what to say in social situations. I hate small talk, but I still make the effort since I want to improve my skills.

10) I laugh at myself and continue to love myself:  when it feels awkward I laugh. When it feels awkward, I reassure myself that it's okay. No need to pressure me.

11) Observe people and learn more:  Observe. Copy. Evaluate. Observe again. Copy. Evaluate.  The more interesting things you know, the more interesting you are.

12) Appreciate silence:  Sometimes, being quiet and listening to the other person is an interpersonal skill itself. Some people love to cut people when they are talking. But when you zip your mouth and listen to what the other person has to say, you are practising a highly prized skill not everybody has.

So, friends, I hope these 12 tips will surely help you to develop and maintain interpersonal relationships.  If you find it very useful, please share it with your friends and relatives so that they also gain something.

Interpersonal Relationship (Part 4) Importance & Advantages

 

Hi guys! Welcome to my blog Personality Development.  At the very outset, I would like to thank you for your support in the form of subscribing to the blog, liking and sharing the posts and for your valuable comments. 

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We shall see the importance and advantage of good interpersonal relationship in this short article.

Do you know what interpersonal relationships are? You have probably heard about it if you have ever worked in any type of organization. Interpersonal relationships are the relationships between people in different contexts.

And one of the main contexts in which this issue comes up is within corporate environments, especially because relationships in these environments are complex. This is because relationships between employees, and between them and their leaders, directly influence the work.  In other words, everyone should pay attention to their professional relationships, aiming at the quality of the work as well as their career development.

Therefore, when we talk about interpersonal relationships, we’re talking about knowing how to relate; in other words, the ability to get along. It has nothing to do with personality and personal traits. Actually, it’s a skill that can be worked on and improved by all.

The importance of good interpersonal relationships for your professional life is:

·       You get along with better with your co-workers

·       You feel more motivated

·       You’ll have someone you can count on when you need help

·       Your performance improves

·       You have better chances of growth in your career

·       You’ll probably be admired more in professional terms.

On the other hand, companies also benefit greatly when there are good interpersonal relationships between employees, leaders, customers and suppliers.  Therefore, they feel that it’s important to encourage and promote integrations in order to generate positive results for the business.

Some of the advantages of good interpersonal relationships for companies are:

·       Improvement to the organizational environment

·       Higher employee productivity

·       Lower employee turnover

·       Increased customer satisfaction

·       Higher profitability.

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Interpersonal Relationships (Part 3) Types

When two individuals feel comfortable in each other’s company and decide to be with each other, they enter into a relationship.  A close association between individuals who share common interests and goals is called interpersonal relationship.  Individuals who are compatible with each other enter into an interpersonal relationship. People must gel well for a strong and healthy relationship.

All interpersonal relationships are not the same. These bonds are defined by different expectations between the individuals and the context of their relationships. There are five basic categories of these relationships. Let's look at each category now, what differentiates them, and how they serve to meet our needs.

1. Family

This is the first type of interpersonal bond we form, beginning in infancy as we depend on our caretakers. There are many different roles within the family category of relationships, including mother, father, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and more. The importance and nature of these relationships vary from person to person and the roles are defined by a combination of biological kinship and cultural norms.

Families are responsible for protecting children and meeting their physical needs for survival while also providing emotional support and education. In healthy family relationships, the emotional needs and the physical needs should be met for the child. As a person grows into adulthood, the relationships with family members change and the child can increasingly provide emotional and physical support for their caretakers. It is important to note that this is the only category of interpersonal relationship that is not voluntary.

2. Friendship

Friendships often share the same, or sometimes greater, level of intimacy as family relationships. The major difference is that friendship is a voluntary bond entered into by both parties rather than formed as a by-product of biology. People are free to enter into friendships with anyone but the initial attachment usually forms through shared interests, experiences, and attitudes. As the friendship develops into a stronger relationship, the intimacy of emotion and knowledge of one another grows.

Friendship can be between:

§  Man and a woman

§  Man and man

§  Woman and woman

3. Romantic Partners

These relationships are often the most intimate in a person's life, emotionally and certainly physically. Healthy relationships with romantic partners are characterized by deep attachment, passion, trust, and respect. Emotionally, these relationships are as close as the best of friends with the personal support and impact of family. Romantic relationships can often lead to a concurrent familial relationship if the partnership undergoes cultural marriage rituals or bears children or both.

4. Platonic Relationship

A relationship between two individuals without any feelings or sexual desire for each other is called a platonic relationship.  In such a relationship, a man and a woman are just friends and don’t mix love with friendship. Platonic relationships might end in a romantic relationship with both the partners developing mutual love and falling for each other.

5. Professional Relationship (Work Relationship)

Individuals working together for the same organization are said to share a professional relationship.  Individuals sharing a professional relationship are called colleagues. Colleagues may or may not like each other.

So, friends, I hope that you have learned the different types of interpersonal relationship that will be very helpful in your practical life. Please subscribe to this blog, like the article, share with your friends and relatives and give your valuable comments. Wish you all the best.

 

Interpersonal Relationship (Part 2) Stages

Hello! My dear readers, we shall see the stages of interpersonal relationship in this article.

Every one of us is in a relationship with other persons.  There are 5 stages of Interpersonal Relationship according to George Levinger, a psychologist.  They are:

    1. Acquaintance stage: An interpersonal relationship starts from the point when two people meet each other.  For example, when you travel your neighbours may converse with you on various topics and even you may pass time by playing cards or any type of game.  This is the first stage of interpersonal relationship.  This stage is called the acquaintance stage.

                                     

2. The building up stage: This is the stage where the relationship extends beyond knowing each other. At this stage, people develop strong and deep trust for each other.  For example, some of you may even take the contact no of the other person who travelled along with you to be in touch.  In future, you may even invite that person for any family function, or you may meet that person if you happen to go to the city where that person lives.

3. Continuation stage: It is the deepening stage of a relationship. Here, there exists a deep-down level of closeness, joy and passion for each other.  For example, your friend invites you for his/her family function or you may plan for a joint-family outing or tour.

 4. Deterioration stage: This is the stage where all the flakes of the relationship begin to wane i.e. a stage when you begin to get tired of your relationship, but not always and not with everyone.

 5. Termination stage: This is the stage where the relationship ends either by the event of the death of one partner, separation or divorce.

So, friends, check your relationship with others, at what stage it is and try to improve it to a greater relationship.  Thank you.  Wish you all the best.